Single Mom Reality Check

Of course everyone dreams of being in a relationship, getting married, buying a house and having a family.  However, for some of us it doesn't quite happen in that order.  Of course for obvious reasons I had a little bit of help getting pregnant- In the words of "Save the Last Dance" So I climbed up on top of myself and got myself pregnant?  I figured out that I conceived after officially being with my boyfriend for about 3 weeks.  It is obviously difficult to try to start a new relationship while suddenly having to change your world.  It has now dawned on me that, for the time being and maybe forever, I will be a single mother.  It's a scary thought to stumble upon in the middle of the joy and excitement of preparing for things to come.  If October rolls around and I am indeed a single mother, I know I have great people to surround myself with and other strong single mothers in my own family to look up to.

I just think the hardest part is having this picture of what my life would be, a picture that I've had since I was 17... married to Denzel Washington and winning olympic gold metals. Actually, no... that's just a dream.  I thought by age 23 I'd have a job, be in some sort of stable relationship and have my own place.  And now I have come to the realization that there is no way my life will ever turn out that way. But just because my life isn't how I had envisioned it doesn't mean that my life isn't turning out to be exactly what it was supposed to be.